Let’s talk about being horny, shall we? Being horny can be one of the most fun feelings in the world. Whether it happens every day or only slightly, whether you do something about it or not, and whether you’re a boy, girl, or anything in between or outside, as long as you embrace it, there’s a lot of nice things that can happen. Let’s see how it works, why it happens, and what options there are.
According to Merriam-Webster, horny means “desiring sexual gratification”. Basically, it’s a feeling of craving, just like being hungry is a craving for food. It’s not necessarily about wanting to have sex, it’s merely your brain and body getting ready to have sex, in whichever way that might be.
What’s being horny like for girls?
When girls get horny, a lot of things might happen. It all starts with her brain – that’s where the “desiring sexual gratification” comes into play. She might suddenly start to think about sexual activities, about people she likes, about actions she has performed in the past or wants to do in the future.

Once the brain is on board, the body can join in. There are several things that might happen, but the most obvious one is that her pussy might get wet. In purely basic terms, getting wet is a way for a girl’s body to get ready to receive a male sex organ – although there’s obviously tons of girls who don’t desire male sex organs at all. How wet a girl gets and how easily she gets it can differ a lot, so don’t panic when not a lot (or a whoooooole lot) is happening down there.
Other bodily signs that a girl is getting horny may include hardened nipples, sensitive skin, or blushy cheeks.
What’s being horny like for guys?
Brain-wise, being horny for guys is pretty similar to being horny for girls. It also starts with thinking about sex, in whichever way that might be.
As for the body, things get a bit more obvious for guys. When horny, a guy often tends to get an erection. This is the brain sending extra blood to his dick, making it grow in size and hardening, so he will eventually be able to penetrate a girl – again, this is obviously not what every guy desires, it’s just the way of the world. Note that guys can also get boners when they’re not necessarily horny, especially in the morning, or simply at random times during the day or night.
Guys may also get more sensitive skin and blushy cheeks, although it’s often less prominent than it is on girls.

How often should I be horny?
This is a question you might have, and there’s no single answer. There’s nothing you should do. Being horny comes and goes, and it’s got a lot to do with how you live your life, whether you’re seeing someone, your environment, your upbringing, the weather, and many more things, even including the time of the month for girls.
A lot of people get horny enough to do something about it a few times a week, but it’s not at all uncommon for it to either happen on a daily basis, or much less often. Our advice: just roll with it, enjoy it when it comes, and don’t feel too bothered when it doesn’t.
Do I have to have sex when I’m horny?
First things first: you don’t have to do anything. Like we said in the beginning, being horny is simply your body and mind getting ready to have sex, whether they’re going to or not.
Having said that, there is still the “desiring sexual gratification” thing. When you’re hungry, you don’t necessarily have to eat instantaneously, but your body and brain want to, and it often feels very good when you do eat something. It’s the same for being horny: you don’t have to do anything about it, but when you do, chances are you’re going to like it.
Contrary to popular belief, this doesn’t necessarily mean having an orgasm, although for many people it is the most common way of getting this “sexual gratification”. Still, a fun session, whether alone or with someone else, without the final explosion can still be a lot of fun, and it might still relief some of the tension – or make it a whole lot worse.
What if I don’t get horny?
Like we said earlier, not everyone gets horny at equal time intervals. There are a lot of things that can keep you from getting horny. Perhaps you’re not feeling well, either physically or mentally. You might be hesitant about masturbation or sex, keeping you from giving in to these feelings of desire. It could also be that your brain gets horny, but your body doesn’t necessarily show the signs.
We’re all about the “live and let live” approach when it comes to sex, so if you don’t get horny as much as you’d like, our advice is to just accept it. Some people simply have larger appetites than others.
Still, if you want to help things along a bit, there are options. Watching porn or reading erotic stories can help a great deal, as can touching yourself. Wearing sexy clothes or being naked is also a great way of speeding up the process. If all else fails, you can simply start masturbating or having sex – chances are your body and brain will catch up at some point.
How to stop being horny?
Since being horny is “desiring sexual gratification”, there’s a very straightforward answer to this question: establish said gratification. The most obvious way to do this is to have an orgasm. This is especially true for guys: they often only stop being horny after they have had an orgasm. It might take them days to get horny again, or it might take them minutes, if even that, but most of the time, there is at least some downtime after an orgasm.
For girls, things aren’t as simple. Surely, for many girls, it works exactly the same: when an orgasm is reached, the desire for gratification stops for a while. This isn’t even remotely always the case, though. Some girls can’t have orgasms at all, others only get more excited after they have had one. Whichever is the case for you, try to just roll with it.
Final thoughts
So there it is. Being horny is a way for your brain and body to get ready for sex, whether you’re going to have it or not – we can confirm doing something about it is usually a lot of fun, though, whether it’s alone or with someone else.
Whatever you do, don’t feel bad when you don’t get horny all that often, or when you’re pretty much horny all the time. People come in all different kinds of sizes and shapes, and the same goes for the brain. Just accept the situation, and deal with it as you please.