Congratulations! You’re about to give head. A blowjob is one of the best presents you can give to any guy. Maybe it’s your first time sucking him off, or maybe you’re wondering whether you’re doing it right. There are some basic tactics and techniques that will make him love it even more. Here’s all you’ve ever needed to know about blowjobs.
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Some guys will argue that a blowjob is literally better than sex. That’s a matter of opinion, but when done right, a pair of warm lips and a wet tongue around the merchandise feels absolutely amazing. It can be a bit scary to dive in for the first time, not entirely knowing what to expect. Well, let’s fix that, shall we?
The penis
The penis – fine, dick – is an organ dedicated to one thing (ok, two things, but we’re going to be talking about the one thing): spreading genes all over the world. It’s made to penetrate deep into a female, drop genetic material, and then go back to being that weird little attachment that’s just hanging there. Along with the testicles, where the genetic material is kept, it’s not only the most important part of a man’s body, but also the most sensitive.
Foreplay
A guy needs to be properly excited for this exchange of genetic material (let’s just call it orgasm from now on) to take place. Getting him that excited can be as easy as even wiggling your butt, or a lot harder, depending on a lot of circumstances. It’s good to remember, though, that the usual erogene zones that make a girl’s body all ticklish, work pretty much the same on guys, too.
So use them! Kiss him, touch him, and don’t forget to let him kiss you and touch you too. Every guy is different, and you’ll need to figure out what turns this specific catch on, but you’ll notice soon enough from the bulge that will start to appear in his shorts.
The build-up
Whereas building things up isn’t as important to most guys as it is to some girls, it can be a lot of fun to do. Whenever a guy is getting excited, he really wants you to take his dick and put it in a hole. You can do so immediately, but isn’t it a lot more fun to leave him wanting it for a bit longer?
Kissing down his body will make him go crazy. Touching his balls is a great way to get him all needy. You can lick up and down the shaft, or give small kisses on the tip. Basically, you can do everything with or to his dick without actually putting it all the way in your mouth. He’s waited for quite some time to get to this point, he can wait a little bit longer.
Sucking
At some point, though, the time is right for the actual blowjob. This is the moment he’s been waiting for. And the good part is: it’s immensely difficult to screw it up. The one basic rule that every girl or boy that goes down on a guy should remember is this one:
A dick is a lollipop, not a popsicle.
This may be a bit cryptic, but it all makes sense. A popsicle is cold, and even though it’s a great feeling in your mouth on a warm day, you don’t really want to keep it in there for too long, or your tongue will freeze. You’ll be taking short licks, with quite some time in between. A lollipop isn’t cold, but that means it’s not going to melt in your mouth, either. It takes more effort and more suction to get that taste out of a lollipop. And that suction is exactly what guys need.
How to give a blowjob?
The very basic technique is placing both your lips on the tip, applying some suction by creating a bit of a vacuum inside your mouth, lowering your head so it slides in nice and easy, and then almost letting it slide out again. Keep the tip in your mouth, unless you’re going to take a breather for yourself (which you should totally do).
How deep should it go?
Don’t worry, you don’t have to take the entire length of his dick in your mouth. Especially when a guy is on the larger end of the spectrum, trying to can be very tricky indeed. The most sensitive part of his dick is the tip, so as long as that gets the attention it needs, you’re all good. Having said that, there’s hardly a better sight and feeling than a pair of lips sliding all the way down the shaft, so if you manage to go a little deeper, I think I’m speaking for the entire male community when I say: please do!
What am I doing with my hands?
There’s a lot of things you can be doing with your hands. For starters, you can grab his dick at the base, perhaps even jerk him off while you suck him. This will probably get him off a lot faster than he’d like to, though, so you may want to think this one through. Another great thing to do with your hands is to play with his balls. Those things are always somewhat sensitive, but especially while engaged in actual sexual activities. Cup them, squeeze them gently (gently!), lick them for a few seconds. If you’re really starting to feel it yourself, there’s no guy in the world that wouldn’t find it hot if you played with yourself a little while giving head, so don’t hesitate to think about yourself for a bit, too.
What am I doing with my tongue?
Sometimes, during a blowjob, it may feel like your tongue is actually working against you, rather than working along. This is not true. Without your tongue, your mouth is just a hollow cave, and your lips would be doing all the hard work. I’ve mentioned before that the tip is the most sensitive part of a guy’s dick, but more specifically, it’s the lower part of it (when it’s pointing at you) that really does the trick. Keeping your tongue in its natural position in your mouth, below his dick, will really help him out. Having said that, it’s also a great tool to play around with when you’ve broken the vacuum for a moment. Flick, lick, do all the things imaginable. Tongues are really soft, everything they do will feel good.
Communication
Communication is always a tricky thing in the bedroom. It’s worth talking during sex though, and blowjobs aren’t any different. A guy can tell you what techniques he likes best, how you can improve what you’re doing, or how to go slower so he doesn’t explode in your face just yet. Non-verbal communication is just as important: he may grab your head and gently nudge you into the direction or speed he wants you to go. Let him guide you, he knows what he likes best.
Orgasm
Whether it’s going to take a few seconds or fifteen minutes, eventually, you’re bound to give him an orgasm at some point in time. Let’s assume you’re not using a condom for this part of the bedroom activities (if you are, well done!). When a guy has an orgasm, at least during a good chunk of his life, he will shoot the aforementioned genetical material out of his dick. This can be a bit of a shock, it can be unexpected, you may even find it somewhat gross, but there’s very little you can do about it, so you should really just roll with it. There’s a few options to do so:
Use his body
When he gives you the signal, take him out of your mouth, and use your hands to finish the job. A guy’s dick is just like a joystick, you can aim it pretty well. He’s probably used to squirting his goods all over himself, so he won’t mind if it happens again. In addition, if you’re slightly better prepared, you can grab some tissues or a towel, if those are within reach, but really, that’s something he’ll only be thinking about afterwards, so don’t break your head over it.
Use your body
Option B is to let him cum over you instead of himself. This is something a lot of guys are really into. Granted, it’s one of these things that porn makes look perfectly normal, even though it’s a little bit weird, but if you’re okay with it, he is really going to be okay with it. Perfect landing spots include your shoulder, your boobs, your belly, and if you’re really feeling it, your face. Keep in mind though that this is not something you have to do, but it it is something you should if you’d like to.
Use your mouth
Just because he taps you on the head, doesn’t mean you have to stop. In fact, he doesn’t really want you to stop, he’s just giving you the signal out of common courtesy. The best thing you can do it just to keep going, and letting him cum right there in your mouth. I’d like to stress that this is something you really shouldn’t do it you don’t feel comfortable doing it, but if you do, he’s going to love you for it. Keep in mind that there can be quite a lot of cum, so get ready for multiple waves hitting the back of your throat.
Once he’s done, you can either spit it out (which is hot) or swallow the lot (which is even hotter). Again, this is totally and entirely up to you.
Some other things to consider
There’s a few things you can do to make this blowjob just that little bit more special:
- Look up. There’s nothing hotter than the sight of a girl looking in your eyes while your dick disappears into her mouth
- Change up. Change both things as speed, depth, and suction power, as well as the position in which you’re giving head.
- Don’t stop. A guy’s orgasm typically lasts longer than a girl’s orgasm, up to 8-10 seconds. Don’t stop sucking or jerking during that time. Keep going until he’s fully satisfied, he’ll probably tell you when he’s good.
- Be nice. After an orgasm, a guy usually needs a while to come back down to planet Earth. If you like cuddles, this is your chance. He’ll love a slow aftermath. Just make sure he doesn’t fall asleep.