The Lotus is probably the most romantic position you’ve ever been in, or will ever be in. Don’t expect raunchy, rough sex; this one’s for those beautiful moments of love, trust, and pleasure. Get it right, and you may never want to stop again. Here’s everything you’ve ever needed to know about the Lotus sex position.
The Lotus position (the normal position, not the sex position) is a very important pose in Buddhist, Hindu, and Tantra culture. It references to health and well-being, something that’s also commonly associated with sex. This makes the Lotus sex position one of the most intriguing ones out there, although it’s not necessarily the easiest. Here’s how it goes.
The guy
The guy is sitting on the couch, bed, floor, or wherever feels convenient. His knees are slightly bent, his legs slightly spread. Once the girl has lowered herself over him, he wraps his arms around her, holding her tightly. He might even lean in to lay his head to rest on her shoulder, look up at her from below, or gently kiss her neck or collarbone.
The girl
The girl climbs on top of the guy, and sits down on his lap. Her knees are bent, her legs are tightly wrapped around the guy’s body, and she wraps her arms around his shoulders, almost clinging onto him. She can look down at him, bury her face in his shoulder, or lean back a little to expose herself to him.
The movement
Here’s where it gets tricky. While most sex positions involve some kind of sliding in and out, the Lotus position doesn’t necessarily do so. It’s much more convenient to perform either a rocking-back-and-forth motion, or a circular grinding motion. Either way, make sure to do slow movements, and don’t overdo it. The guy can’t move a whole lot, so most of the motion has to come from the girl.
The extras
The Lotus sex position is one of the most romantic positions you’ll ever be able to perform. Because you’re wrapped so tightly against each other, lots of skin is touching. Moreover, you’re able to look straight into each other’s eyes. Because the movement is more restricted than it is in your average Cowgirl position, it’s perfect for slow sessions – Sunday morning, anyone? And who knows, maybe you’ll even feel a little elevated from the whole thing.
The catch
But there’s always a catch. Because of the guy’s position, you shouldn’t expect intensely deep penetration. The lack of movement might also make the whole thing take a long time, so it’s not ideal for quickies, and it’s difficult for the guy to, for example, use his hands to give her some extra feels. Lastly, getting into the position can be a bit of a hassle at first, so make sure to take your time.