Foreplay is fun. Touching, feeling, licking, sucking, all that jazz. But in the end, sex boils down to that one special thing: penetration. The actual sex. A penis inside a vagina. Fucking. It’s one of the most fun things anyone can do. Here’s all you’ve ever needed to know about penetration.
Yes, we’re quite into foreplay, masturbation and things like that. Giving head is one of the best feelings for a guy, getting licked can drive a girl crazy, and there’s tons of cool things about masturbation, both for guys and girls. But the essence of the word “sex” is a little bit more than that. It needs a penis, and a vagina, and the one entering the other. There’s so many ways to do it, and there’s so much awesomeness about it, that it’s worth knowing everything you can about. And you’ve come to the right place!
Physical penetration
It’s literally as simple as it sounds: a penis inside a vagina. There’s just nothing else to it. Well, in theory. But really, the basics are just very… basic. Take 1 human being who is in the possession of a vagina, and add 1 human being who is in the possession of a penis. Have the second person put his penis in the first person’s vagina, and you’re all good!
Without any doubt, both organs are built for this practice. It may not seem like it at first, but the entire purpose of the vagina is to receive a penis, and the entire purpose of a penis is to squeeze itself into a vagina. In an evolutionary way, this is done for purposes of procreation, but mankind has figured out a way to turn it into a lot of fun, too.
When am I ready for penetration?
Let’s make this perfectly clear: you’re ready when you feel ready. It doesn’t matter whether you’re twelve or twenty-two. Physically, both guys and girls are “ready” at some point during puberty. The body gets ready for adult life, and so do the sex organs. However, the brain has to be ready too. When exactly this is, is entirely up to you.
How about the first time?
The first time is always special. It can be amazing, it can be an agony, or somewhere in between. Usually, for guys, it’s the first. Guys are the ones doing the penetrating, so there’s very little risk of injury. In fact, it often feels so good for them that they wish they would have lasted a bit longer. This usually fixes itself over time. If it doesn’t, read this article.
For girls, it’s a bit different. First off, there’s a physical barrier that comes in to play, called the hymen. It’s a thin slice of tissue that covers the vagina opening. It tends to break upon penetration. However, it doesn’t always do so, and whether there’s any evidence of it doing so entirely depends on random factors. There simply is no way to tell whether a girl has been penetrated or not.
Secondly, there’s the matter of size. Virgin vaginas haven’t been stretched out yet. They aren’t used to anything being inside them. This, too, usually changes over time, at least to some extent, but especially during the first few times, penetration can feel slightly less good than it should. Take it slow, keep talking about how it feels, and eventually, things will be good.
What the fuck?!
So how does it work? It’s easy. The guy slides in, and out, and back in, and back out, and so on. That’s about it. There’s a lot of ways to do it: fast, slow, deep, shallow, straight, angled, all the things. There are so many different positions entire books have been written about it. We have our favorite positions, too.
The thing to remember here is: everything has been done before, so nothing is weird. As long as it feels good for the both of you, it’s all okay. You may want to start with the better-known ones, but really, experimenting is half the fun.
When does penetration end?
Historically, it ends when the guy is done. He has an orgasm, which is used for fertilizing the egg, which could eventually lead to pregnancy, the initial purpose of sex.
But that’s silly. Female humans are among the lucky creatures who can actually have orgasms, too. It should be noted that many girls cannot have an orgasm through penetration alone, but that doesn’t mean she doesn’t like how it feels. But guys, word of advice: you know how to feel after an orgasm. Make sure she has had at least the same amount of fun, first.
Many girls, and some guys, can keep going after an orgasm. This means it only ends when you want it to end. If that’s you, consider yourself lucky, and enjoy it as much as you can.
Safety
It’s not the most fun topic, but it’s an important one. We can’t stress this enough: use a condom. Not only does it make it near-impossible for the girl to accidentally get pregnant, it’s also a great way to keep the STDs away. Yes, it’s annoying, yes, the feeling can be slightly numbed, but these are minor annoyances compared to an unwanted pregnancy or a lot of scratching in funny places.
Some tips
To wrap this up, here’s a few tips that will make sex even better!
- Make sure both are in the mood. Sex is so much better when all parties involved are really planning on going for it.
- Make sure you don’t get disturbed. Sure, it can be kinky to risk getting caught, but especially at first, just wait until you’re home alone, lock the doors, and do everything you can in order not to have to think about anything else than sex.
- Make sure you talk. Sex should be mutually pleasurable. The only way to make sure of this is communication. It can be a bit awkward at first, but keep telling the other how it feels or what you would like them to do. It will only get better that way.
- Make sure you use a condom. Seriously.
- Make sure you don’t forget about the other ways you can have sex. As much fun as penetration is, and as good as it may feel, never forget things like sucking, licking, fingering, jerking, kissing, and cuddling exist.
- And lastly: make sure you do it as often as you can. It’s fun, enjoy it!